Rebellion and Intervention
When to step in and intervene - and how - is not always clear. There aren't always straightforward answers to a parent's frantic questions. I'll start, though, with two responses to the query about what to do when your teenager is out of control.
First, seek help sooner rather than later.Parents often wait too long, hoping the situation will fix itself. Sometimes things are resolved on their own, but sometimes they only get worse. You don't have to reach for a therapist at the first sign of trouble, but you do need to reach out. If the level of help you enlist successfully addresses the situation, great. If it doesn't do the job, seek the next level.
Second, find assistance when your teenager's behavior is . . .
- intense enough and on the verge of dangerous, or
- marked by enough major behavioral and personality changes that can't be otherwise defined, or
- disruptive enough to everyday routine that he or she isn't operating as he or she normally can.
- It's not your fault.
- Your teen has made his or her own choices, for reasons known or unknown.
- All the work, time and intervention you've put into this teenager of yours increase the odds that he or she finally will come around.